by Nancy | Feb 16, 2022
I am a decisive person. I can make up my mind in an instant, and if it turns out that my choice was hasty or wrong, oh well. That’s why I’ve never played chess. I mean, who has the patience to ponder strategy three or four moves ahead? And then somewhere...
by Nancy | Feb 9, 2022
I recently helped a divorced couple to sharpen their co-parenting skills. Because I’m not a therapist, I focused my attention toward arriving at a better way for each to listen to the other with a goal of reaching an understanding. Ever the optimist, I’m...
by Nancy | Feb 2, 2022
Way back when I was still married to my first husband, it took me four years to gather the courage to file for divorce. I knew for sure that I wasn’t going to stay married to him forever, yet I procrastinated, postponing the conversation with myself to answer...
by Nancy | Jan 26, 2022
(This blog was originally posted on my website in February of 2019. I enjoyed writing it, and I think the message is worth repeating.) Aha! Admit it, that title caught your attention. I probably should apologize in advance if you thought I was talking about anatomy....
by Nancy | Jan 19, 2022
Have you ever wondered what would happen to your household if you went A.W.O.L. for a month and moved to the beach? Will your business survive if you weren’t there to run it? Maybe you’re suffering from what I like to call “the curse of...
by Nancy | Jan 12, 2022
I know some world-class grudge-holders. Do either of the following scenarios sound like someone you know? You and your mother-in-law had the fight to end all fights. Granted, it was a long time ago, but it was never resolved. There was no resolution. There wasn’t...
by Nancy | Jan 5, 2022
We’ve all been stuck in a conflict that ends with an impasse. Co-workers who refuse additional responsibility, teenagers who won’t respect a curfew, spouses who “forget” to mention use of the debit card, are just a few typical examples. There are global examples of...
by Nancy | Dec 29, 2021
It should come as no surprise to you that peace has a price tag. Consider the negotiations between Anwar Sadat and Menachem Begin (the President of Egypt and Prime Minister of Israel, respectively) who signed one of the most famous peace treaties in history on March...
by Nancy | Dec 22, 2021
My mom liked to move the furniture around. On any given day, and for no particular reason, I’d come home from school to find the living room couch on the opposite wall, or my dad’s recliner somewhere new. Those minor changes in the house made me feel disconnected and...
by Nancy | Dec 15, 2021
Over the past nine years, I have helped a surprising number of couples to end their long term marriages, some even after 45 years! This phenomenon has been labeled the “Grey Divorce” (as in older couples with grey hair), and I’m sharing some...
by Nancy | Dec 8, 2021
We all know them. The blamers. The ones who are the quickest to deny responsibility. Instead, they say things like, “the bank bounced my check,” or “I missed the deadline because my assistant’s kid was sick.”When I’m working with my divorce mediation clients, I never...
by Nancy | Dec 1, 2021
Are you a scorekeeper? Do you keep track of whether it’s your turn to buy lunch? Do you always do your best to keep a conversation balanced? Do you remember who’s had you over for dinner? Or are you the one who never reaches for the check? Are you the...
