by Nancy | May 21, 2025
We already know that relationships require trust. You trust the person who’s cleaning your house, and the babysitter who’s keeping your kids safe. You trust that your employees will take good care of your customers, and you trust the instructor who’s teaching...
by Nancy | May 14, 2025
Does your partner handle your finances? Let me share a story. In my first marriage, which was a very long time ago, my husband insisted on paying the household bills even though I was the greater breadwinner. Although I suspected we were living beyond our means,...
by Nancy | May 7, 2025
Everyone experiences some stress from time to time. Everyone can also admit to feeling anxiety from time to time. Many of us get angry more often than we’d like. In each and every moment of discontent, we all have the ability to deal with these negative emotions...
by Nancy | Apr 30, 2025
Relationships, like life itself, rarely have a smooth, upward trajectory. It’s natural to experience periods of closeness and harmony, as well as periods of distance and conflict. Understanding that “ups and downs” are a normal and inevitable part of...
by Nancy | Apr 23, 2025
If you’ve been married more than 20 years and are contemplating divorce, you’re not alone. For more than 10 years, I have helped a surprising number of couples to end their long term marriages, some even after 45 years! This phenomenon has been labeled...
by Nancy | Apr 16, 2025
Because I’m a divorce mediator, the interaction between partners is always interesting to me. I pay particular attention to other diners when I’m at a restaurant. If the couple seems to barely engage in conversation with each other, or if they seem to be...
by Nancy | Apr 9, 2025
I had an interesting discussion at a recent Adam’s Place meeting. (Adam’s Place is a non-profit organization supporting children and their families who have suffered the loss of a loved one. I have been facilitating the adult group for eight years, and...
by Nancy | Apr 2, 2025
Just last week, I started a divorce mediation with a couple going through a particularly ugly break-up. Practically the first thing they told me was that they they often fight in front of their kids. And they acknowledged the negative impact.I shared some insight by...
by Nancy | Mar 26, 2025
You and your mother-in-law had the fight to end all fights. Granted, it was a long time ago, but it was never resolved. You didn’t have closure. There wasn’t even an agreement to disagree. Just silence. Out of respect for your spouse, you continued to go through...
by Nancy | Mar 19, 2025
Many people I know are dealing with aging parents or grandparents about some or all of these issues: (1) Care, safety and comfort; (2) Mobility; (3) Living situation; (4) Companionship; (5) Sexuality; (6) Mental capacity; and (7) End of life decisions.Wow! Tough...
by Nancy | Mar 12, 2025
Have you ever been stuck in a conflict that ends with an impasse? Maybe your co-workers have refused additional responsibility, or your teenager won’t respect a curfew. Maybe your spouse “forgets” to mention use of the debit card, or your babysitter...
by Nancy | Mar 5, 2025
As a divorce mediator, I can share many reasons why marriages end. But as we all know, a majority of marriages thrive. I often ask couples who seem to have figured it out to share their formula for success. The answers run the gamut from separate bathrooms (my...
