Do You Toot Your Own Horn?  (Three Minute Read)

Do You Toot Your Own Horn? (Three Minute Read)

When my big brother was running for third grade class president against Ellen Freedlander, the vote was conducted by the heads-down, eyes-closed, raise-your-hand method. Afraid he’d be caught voting for himself, my brother cast his vote for Ellen and guess what?...
Are You The Controller or the Controlled?  (Three Minute Read)

Are You The Controller or the Controlled? (Three Minute Read)

Do you have possession of the remote?  What about the finances?  The calendar?  I believe that in most healthy relationships, the control winds up balanced — decided by aptitude or by enthusiasm. In my divorce mediation practice, it’s sometimes obvious...
Do You Need to Avoid These Words?  (Three Minute Read)

Do You Need to Avoid These Words? (Three Minute Read)

I recently posted an article devoted entirely to the use of the word “but.” Since that article was published, my colleagues, friends, relatives, and readers have steered me toward an ever-growing list of other words or expressions that cause angst,...
Handling Disappointment (Three Minute Read)

Handling Disappointment (Three Minute Read)

Last week was Valentine’s Day and I hope, at the end of the day, you weren’t disappointed.  I know that some of us are more romantic than others, some of us are not currently in a love relationship, and some of us think Valentine’s Day is a Hallmark...
Asking for Help (Three Minute Read)

Asking for Help (Three Minute Read)

I’m one of those people who finds it difficult to ask for help. As an independent woman, I don’t want to be perceived as needy or weak, so I tend to either do it myself, pay someone to help me, or simply forget about it. Does this sound like you? There are...
A Few Words About Buts (Three Minute Read)

A Few Words About Buts (Three Minute Read)

Aha! Admit it, that title caught your attention. I probably should apologize in advance if you thought I was talking about anatomy. I’m actually going to talk about the word, not the body part. So, if you’re game to read more, I’d like you to think...

Blended Families (Three Minute Read)

Statistics show that one in three Americans is either a step-child, a step-sibling, or a stepparent. That’s a lot of blended families! Those of a certain age can certainly remember The Brady Bunch, but let’s not forget that it was a fictional family. There...

Are You Okay? Try Asking Another Way (Three Minute Read)

Is it okay to simply ask “are you okay?” Maybe we need to distinguish between the physical okay and the emotional okay.  Obviously, if your toddler takes a tumble and starts to cry, the first thing you’re going to ask is if he’s okay.  (Unless...

Lawn Mower Parenting (Three Minute Read)

We all know a helicopter parent (one who hovers) and a tiger mom (one who roars), but now there’s a new type of parent, the lawn mower.  The first time I’d ever heard this term was in a divorce mediation when the husband accused his wife of lawn mower...