Do You Respond or React?  (Three Minute Read)

Do You Respond or React? (Three Minute Read)

Let’s start out with a quiz: 1. Somebody cuts you off on the freeway, causing you to slam on your brakes and spill your coffee. Do you: (a) honk your horn; or (b) feel around for some napkins? 2. You’ve been on hold with your cable company for 20 minutes. ...
I Am Compassionate.  Are You?  (Three Minute Read)

I Am Compassionate. Are You? (Three Minute Read)

I drive past homeless people almost every day. Sometimes, especially when it’s raining, I will lower my car window and hand over a dollar. But more often, I confess, I simply look the other way. I guess I’m more compassionate in the rain than I am in the...
Who’s Under Your Wing?  (Three Minute Read)

Who’s Under Your Wing? (Three Minute Read)

Whether you’re 25 or 65, you’ve likely acquired experience in something.  It makes no difference if you’re a skilled poker player or an exquisite cupcake baker, sharing some of the things you’ve learned can have all kinds of hidden and...
Fertilize Your Relationship (Three Minute Read)

Fertilize Your Relationship (Three Minute Read)

I think long-term relationships are like a garden. In the beginning, we decide what we’re going to grow, we till the soil and we plant the seeds.  We pay close attention as the seedlings begin to sprout, giving them the proper amount of sun, water, and food. ...
Chaos in the Cubicle (Three Minute Read)

Chaos in the Cubicle (Three Minute Read)

I used to work in a cubicle.  It was at the apex of the office, and people passed by me all day long.  I’m usually friendly, so when my co-workers stopped to chat, I generally enjoyed the engagement.  Occasionally, I was called out on this behavior during my...
Take a Breath, Slow Down (Three Minute Read)

Take a Breath, Slow Down (Three Minute Read)

As we are becoming more and more dependent on the instant gratification of checking with Google (or Siri, or Alexa), I wonder if our own impatience can be causing harm.   Raise your hand if you’ve recently found yourself doing any of the following: Interrupting...
IT WORKS FOR ME (Three Minute Read)

IT WORKS FOR ME (Three Minute Read)

The other day when I was clearing out some notes on my phone, I came across a sentence I’d entered more than a year ago. I don’t know whether it was derived from someone else’s words or from my own, so I’m going to take credit for it. This is...
Three Types of Revenge (Three Minute Read)

Three Types of Revenge (Three Minute Read)

I know I addressed this subject a few years ago.  While I’m not surprised at how often my clients speak of “revenge” during a divorce mediation, I’m kind of embarrassed that it’s taken me a long time to revisit the topic. In the State of...
I’m Worried (Three Minute Read)

I’m Worried (Three Minute Read)

Ok, that’s a lie. I am not a worrier. I can’t exactly explain how I got that way, or whether it’s a good idea or a not-so-good one. Worrying is a form of self-protection.  It’s an important and instinctive emotion that morphs into action so...
Are You Enabling Your Adult Child?  (Three Minute Read)

Are You Enabling Your Adult Child? (Three Minute Read)

Psychologists define an enabler as “someone who allows poor choices and decisions to continue despite knowing that those choices can be harmful to the other person.” Could the psychologists be describing you? I know you think you’re simply being a...
It’s A Shame (Three Minute Read)

It’s A Shame (Three Minute Read)

My earliest memory of feeling shame was when I wet my pants at the library. I was four years old, and my mom left me in the children’s section (back when it was okay to do that).  I had to pee and I couldn’t find anyone to show me to the bathroom. The...
What Does Your Family Look Like?  (Three Minute Read)

What Does Your Family Look Like? (Three Minute Read)

Boy, oh boy, have I seen a lot of different types of families! One of the things I love the best about being a Mediator is that no two days are alike. And I’ve come to realize that no two families are alike. Traditionally, families were classified as either...