Reciprocity (Three Minute Read)

Reciprocity (Three Minute Read)

Are you a scorekeeper? Do you keep track of whether it’s your turn to buy lunch? Do you always do your best to keep a conversation balanced?  Do you remember who’s had you over for dinner?   Or are you the one who never reaches for the check?  Are you the...
Encore About Faking it on Thanksgiving (Three Minute Read)

Encore About Faking it on Thanksgiving (Three Minute Read)

This is an encore of a blog which I first published in November of 2017, and again in November of 2018, and again in November of 2019.  I skipped reposting it in 2020 because I pretty much skipped everything that year.  So here it is, back again by semi-popular...
It’s Time for a Family Meeting (Three Minute Read)

It’s Time for a Family Meeting (Three Minute Read)

Telling your kids that you’re getting a divorce is one of the most significant and impactful conversations you’ll ever have, so it makes sense to do the best you can. Even if you haven’t been on the same page with your spouse for ages, it’s extremely important in this...
Has the Power Shifted in Your Relationship? (Three Minute Read)

Has the Power Shifted in Your Relationship? (Three Minute Read)

Power shifts in relationships can be perceived in many ways. Take the newlyweds who met in college. The wife was hired for a teaching job with a decent entry level salary, enough to support the couple while the husband attended law school. She worked full-time, paid...
On Getting the Last Word (Three Minute Read)

On Getting the Last Word (Three Minute Read)

I know at least a dozen people who need to have the last word. And I have no problem allowing them to have it because it isn’t important to me.  Why isn’t it important to me?  Why is it important to them?   I decided to do some research and, not...
Feeling Guilty?  (Three Minute Read)

Feeling Guilty? (Three Minute Read)

I was raised by a Jewish mother.  I think that makes me an expert on guilt.  Religion notwithstanding, I’m going out on a limb to state that everyone has felt guilty about something.  And I think we can all agree that guilt is not fun. So, many of us stay in...
Getting Your SH ** T  Together!  (Three Minute Read)

Getting Your SH ** T Together! (Three Minute Read)

Maybe you made a New Year’s Resolution to get your affairs in order, and you’re still procrastinating.  Maybe even the thought of “what if?” sends you directly to the refrigerator.  Maybe you have other priorities.  And maybe you’re just...
Are Your In-Laws More Like Out-Laws?  (Three Minute Read)

Are Your In-Laws More Like Out-Laws? (Three Minute Read)

Divorced couples with children will be a family forever. Only their marital status and their living situations will change. When I remind my clients of this, I usually offer up scenarios where they’ll be together as a family: graduations, birthdays, weddings,...
S.T.O.P. In the Name of Stress Relief (Three Minute Read)

S.T.O.P. In the Name of Stress Relief (Three Minute Read)

Everybody experiences some stress from time to time.  Everyone can also admit to feeling some anxiety.  Many of us often get angry.  In each and every moment of discontent, we all have the ability to deal with these negative emotions in a positive way.  It starts and...
It’s Time to Take a Break (Three Minute Read)

It’s Time to Take a Break (Three Minute Read)

I am a work in progress. (Aren’t we all?) While concentrating on the business of getting through each day, taking good care of my clients and good care of myself, I sometimes find myself in the weeds with no understanding of how I got there.  I worry about...
Moving Forward After Loss (Three Minute Read)

Moving Forward After Loss (Three Minute Read)

The 20th anniversary of 9/11 was very emotional for me. Although I didn’t know anyone who died in the attacks, hearing the names of those who were lost, and listening to the stories of strength and survival inspired me.  I also cried a lot. You might be aware...
Intention vs. Perception (Three Minute Read)

Intention vs. Perception (Three Minute Read)

When I was in college, I had a poster in my dorm room with the words “I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”  Credit for the quote goes to Alan Greenspan, the...