Vent or Solve? (Three Minute Read)

Vent or Solve? (Three Minute Read)

My name is Nancy, and I am an unsolicited advice giver. I am also solution oriented. As a Mediator, I am tasked with helping my clients to figure things out.  In my personal life, I’m responsible for making my own choices.   And along the way, I’m...
Are You Okay? Do We Need to Ask this Another Way (Three Minute Read)

Are You Okay? Do We Need to Ask this Another Way (Three Minute Read)

Is it okay to simply ask “are you okay?”Maybe we need to distinguish between the physical okay and the emotional okay. Obviously, if your toddler takes a tumble and starts to cry, the first thing you’re going to ask is if he’s okay. (Unless you’re my niece, Lisa,...
Money Language in Relationships (Three Minute Read)

Money Language in Relationships (Three Minute Read)

Partners sometimes speak different languages about money. Whether it’s due to gender, cultural differences, or paycheck inequality, divergent attitudes towards spending and saving can destroy a relationship. In fact, according to many experts, it’s the second leading...
Balancing Work and Play (Three Minute Read)

Balancing Work and Play (Three Minute Read)

Dolly Parton said it best:  “Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.” I admit it. My life isn’t exactly in balance these days. I’m focusing way more time on work than I am on play. And working mostly from home means...
Dealing With Bad News (Three Minute Read)

Dealing With Bad News (Three Minute Read)

Bad news happens. Whether it’s coming down from the Supreme Court, from your doctor’s office, or by a text from your kid’s guidance counselor, we all have to deal with bad news. Hopefully, though, not too often.My personal strategy depends on the...
Tough Talk About Aging Parents (Three Minute Read)

Tough Talk About Aging Parents (Three Minute Read)

Many people I know are dealing with aging parents or grandparents about some or all of these issues: (1) Care, safety and comfort; (2) Mobility; (3) Living situation; (4) Companionship; (5) Sexuality; (6) Mental capacity; and (7) End of life decisions.Wow! Tough...
Self-Care is More Than Just a Bubble Bath (Three Minute Read)

Self-Care is More Than Just a Bubble Bath (Three Minute Read)

What comes to mind when you think of self-care? Getting a massage? Going on vacation?  Is it something you brush off because you haven’t the time?  Do you put everyone and everything else ahead of your own needs and wants?  There’s a reason why the flight...
Listen ! (Three Minute Read)

Listen ! (Three Minute Read)

I think we often confuse listening with hearing. Hearing is involuntary. For those of us with the ability, it just happens. On the other hand, listening is a choice. Imagine you’re a doctor using your stethoscope to evaluate a patient’s heartbeat. You are both hearing...
The Urge for Revenge (Three Minute Read)

The Urge for Revenge (Three Minute Read)

We’ve all felt it. We’ve been betrayed, cheated on, lied to, and hurt. So, our mind starts conjuring up ways to get back, to get even, and to get one up. It’s probably a common human emotion. But is it wise? Way back when I was in college, I had to...
To Be Honest . . . (Three Minute Read)

To Be Honest . . . (Three Minute Read)

I don’t know whether the three words in this title constitute a new, frequently used expression, or whether the phrase has been used forever and I’m just tuning into it.  Regardless, I often wonder if people who start their sentences with to be honest are...
Do You Finish Your Story Before It Ends? (Three Minute Read)

Do You Finish Your Story Before It Ends? (Three Minute Read)

I know people who step on the punchline when I’m telling a joke. Or get it right when I rhetorically say, “guess who I bumped into at Costco?”  Or interrupt me when I pause for dramatic effect.  Annoying, right?  How about when we do it to...