I’m So Disappointed! (Three Minute Read)

I’m So Disappointed! (Three Minute Read)

While I was at UCLA, I worked in a law office with a married woman who was about 10 years older than me. The day after every single holiday or gift-giving occasion, she would come to work bitterly disappointed because her husband never did what she wanted him to do. I...
Separate the People from the Problem (Three Minute Read)

Separate the People from the Problem (Three Minute Read)

Imagine you’re out walking your dog on a Saturday morning enjoying the exercise and the fresh air when, all of a sudden, he pulls on his leash and starts to growl. Why? Because somebody else’s dog has approached, and that dog is not on a leash. Fortunately, your...
Resilience (Three Minute Read)

Resilience (Three Minute Read)

Throughout my ongoing personal journey of grief and loss, I’ve discovered that there is a universal commonality. We are all resilient. It’s amazing, it’s comforting, and it’s also mind-boggling. How can we, in the depths of our despair, manage...
Wish I Hadn’t Said That (Three Minute Read)

Wish I Hadn’t Said That (Three Minute Read)

If you’ve ever been involved in a heated discussion and found yourself enraged by a single statement, you probably understand that your partner, sibling, colleague or parent knows exactly how to push your buttons, and you likely know exactly how to push theirs....
Does Gender Matter in Divorce?  (Three Minute Read)

Does Gender Matter in Divorce? (Three Minute Read)

This subject comes up from time to time, particularly when I’m having a private conversation with a male client.  I tend to wonder about the different ways men and women think about divorce, how they deal with it, and whether the court sometimes has an...
Two Strikes and You’re Out? (Three Minute Read)

Two Strikes and You’re Out? (Three Minute Read)

As much as I’d like to write about baseball today, it’s not happening.  Instead, I’m going to address the concept of second chances.  I wonder whether you’ve ever asked someone for a second chance, or if you’ve given one to somebody...
Is a Reconciliation Possible? (Three Minute Read)

Is a Reconciliation Possible? (Three Minute Read)

Every so often, I get a call from a client telling me that they’ve reconciled.  It’s news I’m always happy to hear, especially if they have children and especially if they’re willing to do the work.    What typically happens next is that a few...
My Family Wants Nothing To Do With Me! (Three Minute Read)

My Family Wants Nothing To Do With Me! (Three Minute Read)

Families are complicated. We all know that.  There’s nothing quite like grudge-holding, judgmental relatives who gossip behind your back.  (Except, maybe, middle-school cliques.)  Nevertheless, you want your family members to love and support you.   “What...
If You Plant It, They Will Grow (Three Minute Read)

If You Plant It, They Will Grow (Three Minute Read)

Whether you’re 25 or 65, I’m sure you’re good at something (or at least you think you are).  It makes no difference if you’re a skilled poker player or an exquisite cake decorator, sharing some of the things you’ve learned can have all kinds of benefits.I...
When You Look in the Mirror, What Do You See?  (Three Minute Read)

When You Look in the Mirror, What Do You See? (Three Minute Read)

I recently had a conversation with a friend from junior high. I don’t exactly remember what led up to this, although I hope it was profound. I think we were reflecting on things we might have told our younger selves.  And he shared his personal mantra of looking...
If It Seems Too Good To Be True … (Three Minute Read)

If It Seems Too Good To Be True … (Three Minute Read)

Naive people can get sucked into scams that cost thousands of dollars.  Savvy people can also fall victim to a promise that, on its surface, seems legit.  Unfortunately, we sometimes forget that IF IT SEEMS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, IT PROBABLY IS.   Take me, for example. ...