Chaos in the Cubicle (Three Minute Read)

Chaos in the Cubicle (Three Minute Read)

I used to work in a cubicle.  It was at the apex of the office, and people passed by me all day long.  I’m usually friendly, so when my co-workers stopped to chat, I generally enjoyed the engagement.  Occasionally, I was called out on this behavior during my...
Take a Breath, Slow Down (Three Minute Read)

Take a Breath, Slow Down (Three Minute Read)

As we are becoming more and more dependent on the instant gratification of checking with Google (or Siri, or Alexa), I wonder if our own impatience can be causing harm.   Raise your hand if you’ve recently found yourself doing any of the following: Interrupting...
IT WORKS FOR ME (Three Minute Read)

IT WORKS FOR ME (Three Minute Read)

The other day when I was clearing out some notes on my phone, I came across a sentence I’d entered more than a year ago. I don’t know whether it was derived from someone else’s words or from my own, so I’m going to take credit for it. This is...
Three Types of Revenge (Three Minute Read)

Three Types of Revenge (Three Minute Read)

I know I addressed this subject a few years ago.  While I’m not surprised at how often my clients speak of “revenge” during a divorce mediation, I’m kind of embarrassed that it’s taken me a long time to revisit the topic. In the State of...
I’m Worried (Three Minute Read)

I’m Worried (Three Minute Read)

Ok, that’s a lie. I am not a worrier. I can’t exactly explain how I got that way, or whether it’s a good idea or a not-so-good one. Worrying is a form of self-protection.  It’s an important and instinctive emotion that morphs into action so...
Are You Enabling Your Adult Child?  (Three Minute Read)

Are You Enabling Your Adult Child? (Three Minute Read)

Psychologists define an enabler as “someone who allows poor choices and decisions to continue despite knowing that those choices can be harmful to the other person.” Could the psychologists be describing you? I know you think you’re simply being a...
It’s A Shame (Three Minute Read)

It’s A Shame (Three Minute Read)

My earliest memory of feeling shame was when I wet my pants at the library. I was four years old, and my mom left me in the children’s section (back when it was okay to do that).  I had to pee and I couldn’t find anyone to show me to the bathroom. The...
What Does Your Family Look Like?  (Three Minute Read)

What Does Your Family Look Like? (Three Minute Read)

Boy, oh boy, have I seen a lot of different types of families! One of the things I love the best about being a Mediator is that no two days are alike. And I’ve come to realize that no two families are alike. Traditionally, families were classified as either...
Are You Good With Names?  (Three Minute Read)

Are You Good With Names? (Three Minute Read)

My Dad was somewhat of a savant. The fact that he could be counted on to count everything always amazed me.  Just like Dustin Hoffman’s iconic “Rainman,” my Dad memorized statistics. What was more amazing was his ability to remember names. I wish I...
The Power of Choice (Three Minute Read)

The Power of Choice (Three Minute Read)

I had an epiphany the other day. Confession: I don’t get them often, but when I have one, I need to write about it.  When you read this, you may think that I’m preaching to the choir, or that my self-proclaimed flash of brilliancy is not very brilliant....
Never Say Never (Three Minute Read)

Never Say Never (Three Minute Read)

I once drove a Dodge station wagon with faux wood paneling. Enough said. Now that I’ve confessed to you, it’s your turn.  When you’re in an argument with your kid, do you find yourself making statements that begin with “You never . . .?” ...
My Daughter-in-Law is Rude! (Three Minute Read)

My Daughter-in-Law is Rude! (Three Minute Read)

Let me start by stating that not all daughters-in-law are rude, and not all mothers think nobody is good enough to marry their sons.  I happen to have a terrific relationship with my mother-in-law, and I know of many others who do as well. End of disclaimer. According...