Turbulence is Temporary (Three Minute Read)

Turbulence is Temporary (Three Minute Read)

Every single time I fly home into Las Vegas airspace, there is turbulence.  Sometimes a little and sometimes a lot, but I’ve experienced enough of it to understand that it doesn’t last.  I wish I could remember that concept when I catch myself getting...
The Business of Marriage (Three Minute Read)

The Business of Marriage (Three Minute Read)

Most of us grow up hearing that marriage is a relationship (and I should know since I’ve had three of them).  True statement, but also an incomplete one.  Whether we acknowledge it or not, marriage is also a business. And like any business, it comes with...
Ignorance Isn’t Bliss (Three Minute Read)

Ignorance Isn’t Bliss (Three Minute Read)

That’s right. I said it. Ignorance is not bliss.  This is contrary to the old adage which first appeared in an 18th century poem by Thomas Gray, “Where ignorance is bliss, ’tis folly to be wise.”  In real life, especially in divorce mediation,...
Is It Possible to Reconcile?  (Three Minute Read)

Is It Possible to Reconcile? (Three Minute Read)

Just last week, I received a call from a client telling me that he and his spouse had reconciled.  It’s news I’m always happy to hear, especially when they have children.  Naturally, I don’t hear this too often, but when I do, I refund any unused retainer fees...
Journal Benefits (Three Minute Read)

Journal Benefits (Three Minute Read)

In what seems like another lifetime, I went on a retreat with my first husband, designed to help improve an already good marriage. (Guess what, it didn’t work.) We were asked to take 10 minutes to write down our answer to a specific question and then exchange...
You Have What It Takes to be a Mentor!  (Three Minute Read)

You Have What It Takes to be a Mentor! (Three Minute Read)

Regardless of your age or your education, you’ve probably acquired experience in something. It makes no difference whether you’re a life insurance expert or a gardening enthusiast, sharing some of the things you’ve learned can have all kinds of hidden and...
What Would You Advise Your Best Friend?  (Three Minute Read)

What Would You Advise Your Best Friend? (Three Minute Read)

Decision making is complicated. Just ask my divorce mediation clients how they’ve struggled with the decision to end the relationship, and how hard they were on themselves during the process. What would happen if your best friend asked you to weigh in on her...
Can Second Marriages Be Successful?  (Three Minute Read)

Can Second Marriages Be Successful? (Three Minute Read)

As if the 50% failure rate for first marriages isn’t horrible enough, the failure rate of second marriages rises to a staggering 67%. You’d think after one divorce, we’d be better equipped to make a success of the second marriage. So, what’s the deal?Turns out, there...
Avoiding Conversations Can Lead to Divorce (Three Minute Read)

Avoiding Conversations Can Lead to Divorce (Three Minute Read)

As a divorce mediator, I help clients have the conversations they’ve often avoided for years. These usually fall into three categories: money, parenting, and feeling unappreciated. Avoidance in any of these areas can quietly erode a relationship until the damage feels...
Open for Business?  (Three Minute Read)

Open for Business? (Three Minute Read)

One of my top goals as a divorce mediator is being accessible to my clients, whether past, present, or future.  I don’t have to remind myself that ending a relationship or navigating one with a co-parent is challenging, to say the least.  That’s why I know...

Identifying Relationship Red Flags (Three Minute Read)

I’ve been doing some research to figure out how I can spot a red flag while it’s in front of me, instead of in the rear view mirror.  And I’ve discovered five signs. The first sign is when I begin to feel guilty putting my needs ahead of the other...