by Nancy | Jan 20, 2021
The subject for this article, in case you haven’t figured it out, is the ultimatum. I recently met with a couple and learned that the husband had been having an affair. When the wife found out, she demanded that he immediately end the other relationship and...
by Nancy | Jan 13, 2021
Urban Dictionary defines magical thinking as “the belief that one exerts more influence over events than one actually has.” Wikipedia likens it to superstitious thinking. I was recently introduced to this concept in a casual conversation with a friend. ...
by Nancy | Jan 6, 2021
Do you remember your first real love? I struggle with the answer to this question because sometimes I count the boys I kissed in kindergarten, and sometimes I count the boy I made out with in junior high, and sometimes I count my first real long-term committed...
by Nancy | Dec 30, 2020
I wish I could brag about learning a foreign language or how to color my own hair. That didn’t happen. I also didn’t lose weight, amp up my exercise routine, or solve a 1000 piece jigsaw puzzle Nevertheless, I experienced many good things this year. I...
by Nancy | Dec 23, 2020
The popular quote “patience is a virtue” was first used by William Langland in the 14th Century poem, “Piers Plowman.” This took me literally 10 seconds to find on Google. I do agree that having patience is a virtue. I also think it’s...
by Nancy | Dec 16, 2020
“The essence of the custom is that I now have to go out and purchase for you a gift of commensurate value and representing the same perceived level of friendship as that represented by the gift you’ve given me. It’s no wonder suicide rates skyrocket...
by Nancy | Dec 9, 2020
At the end of every year I can remember, I have the same conversation with myself. “Next year, I’m going to figure out the difference between what I want and what I need.” I’ll admit that sometimes it’s a tug-o-war. I tend to rationalize...
by Nancy | Dec 2, 2020
Anybody who knows me will attest to the fact that I am a stickler for proper spelling, grammar, and manners. I’ve been known to reply to random posts on Facebook to point out the difference between “your” and “you’re.” I’ve...
by Nancy | Nov 25, 2020
Most of us find it challenging to ask for help, especially now that our world has been turned upside down. Based on personal experience, I can understand not wanting to seem weak or vulnerable, but at whose expense? I mean when my kitchen sink becomes clogged, does...
by Nancy | Nov 18, 2020
Holidays this year are likely to look and feel different with spikes in COVID looming. If the thought of not being with family for Thanksgiving sends your emotions into a tailspin, and opening presents on a Zoom call seems ridiculous, you’re probably not the...
by Nancy | Nov 11, 2020
“I discovered that joy is not the negation of pain, but rather acknowledging the presence of pain and feeling happiness in spite of it.” ~ Lupita Nyong’o For more than two years, I’ve had the privilege of volunteering for Adam’s Place,...
by Nancy | Nov 4, 2020
Disclaimer: I am neither a therapist nor any other sort of mental health practitioner. That being said, I’ve heard the term “narcissist” frequently from various divorcing clients — always about the other person. These accusations led me to...
