by Nancy | Apr 4, 2018
We all know someone who insists on showing us what, where, how, and why to do something. They will insist that they’re not trying to assert control, and rationalize that it’s just common sense. Their way is simply better. In the realm of picking your...
by Nancy | Mar 28, 2018
If you haven’t read last week’s blog about how to prepare for divorce, please take an extra few minutes to read it now. Thank you. Okay, you’re ready to move forward. Now what? Are you thinking about mediation? Are you and your soon-to-be ex able...
by Nancy | Mar 19, 2018
You’ve decided to end your relationship and I’m sure it took a great deal of soul-searching, endless talks with your support system and, finally, the most difficult conversation of all — telling your partner. Now what? Obviously, there are many...
by Nancy | Mar 14, 2018
I’m no expert on parenting (other than to say I had two good ones). This topic is timely for me, however, because it seems to be a common thread in my mediation practice. Co-parenting after divorce can be a slippery slope. It requires two people who are no...
by Nancy | Mar 7, 2018
As a divorce Mediator, I listen to couples whose complaints about each other run the gamut from infidelity to hoarding to gambling to laziness. It’s a good thing I’m trained to be neutral and non-judgmental, because a lot of this stuff can be pretty...
by Nancy | Feb 28, 2018
In the past few weeks, I’ve repeated that statement enough times that I consider it to be a sign for me to write about it. Caring for an aging family member is becoming more and more common. We’re living longer but not necessarily better. In a perfect...
by Nancy | Feb 21, 2018
As if the 50% failure rate for first marriages isn’t horrible enough, the failure rate of second marriages rises to a staggering 67%. You’d think after one divorce, we’d be better equipped to make a success of the second marriage. So, what’s...
by Nancy | Feb 14, 2018
I recently had a conversation with my happily-married niece. It kind of went like this: Me: What are you doing to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Her: Nothing. It’s a stupid holiday. Me: Why do you think it’s stupid? Her: Because we don’t need a...
by Nancy | Feb 7, 2018
Awkward situations can be momentary, like honking your horn at the guy in front of you, and then sitting next to him at a business lunch. That’s not the subject of this article. What I’m talking about here are those awkward situations that are more ...
by Nancy | Jan 31, 2018
Don’t those two words just piss you off even more? As I am sure you can imagine, tempers often flare during mediation and dealing with emotions is a large part of what I do. For example, last year I worked with a divorcing couple who had two kids. According to...
by Nancy | Jan 24, 2018
You want out. Out of your job, your marriage, your apartment lease, your cable contract. And no doubt, you keep on hearing your mother’s voice, “don’t burn a bridge.” What exactly does that mean? According to Wictionary, burning a bridge ...
by Nancy | Jan 17, 2018
I ask a lot of questions. I do so not only because it’s a necessity for a Mediator, but also because I am genuinely interested in the answers. Call it natural curiosity, call it being a good listener, or call it deflecting the interest away from me. Whatever....
