by Nancy | Nov 28, 2018
That small order of french fries won’t hurt. Having a second glass of red wine means twice the antioxidants. I’ll apologize next time I see him. These are some of the many lies I tell myself. Harmless? What do you think? In my mediation practice, I help...
by Nancy | Nov 21, 2018
What happens to the relationship between you and your grandchildren when their parents are involved in a bitter divorce? How can you stay in the lives of your grandchildren when your negative opinion of their mom is well-known? And can you do this without going to...
by Nancy | Nov 14, 2018
It’s almost Thanksgiving and back by popular demand, is my perspective on how to get through the holiday with some of your less-than-favorite people, the relatives. You might think there are only two options: avoidance or confrontation. But in true peacemaker...
by Nancy | Nov 7, 2018
I have a difficult time setting boundaries. As a result, I feel under-appreciated at best, and downright taken for granted at worst. Why is this so hard for me? Is it because of my birth order (youngest of three)? Is it because I like to think I’m a genuinely...
by Nancy | Oct 31, 2018
Recently, I was asked to list the top five reasons why mediation was a good choice to navigate the end of a relationship. Here’s my response: Reason Number 5: You can choose to have an attorney present at the mediation, and/or to review your agreement before...
by Nancy | Oct 24, 2018
Some labels are important. After all, I don’t want to grab a Merlot when I’m really looking for a Pinot Noir. But other than the important ones (like those on wine bottles), I dislike labels. I don’t like the scratchy ones on the inside of my...
by Nancy | Oct 17, 2018
If you’ve watched one minute of television in the last month, you’ve been inundated with political commercials. This candidate is shady, this candidate wants to end social security, this candidate wants to raise property taxes. Blah, blah, blah. I tune it...
by Nancy | Oct 10, 2018
In case you haven’t noticed, old television shows are coming back in prime time, but with a new flair. Will & Grace, Murphy Brown, Magnum P.I., and Miami Vice are on the list. It’s inspired me to think about the whole concept of a reboot. First,...
by Nancy | Oct 3, 2018
I confess, spur-of-the-moment isn’t my favorite flavor. I seldom do anything at the last minute. On the contrary, I plan my work, my meals, my wardrobe, my errands, and my social life. I use three separate calendars. Does that make me obsessive-compulsive? ...
by Nancy | Sep 26, 2018
I want to talk about priorities. We all have them. What I’m wondering is how you prioritize yours? Do you make lists, schedule due dates, and calmly proceed? Or are you frequently overwhelmed by all the things you have to do? And most problematic, do you ever...
by Nancy | Sep 19, 2018
When I was 13 years old, I had an epiphany. While listening to my mom and dad bickering, I observed that my mom was a pessimist and my dad was an optimist. I decided in that moment to be more like my dad. I chose optimism, and pretty soon thereafter, it wasn’t...
by Nancy | Sep 12, 2018
Google’s dictionary defines patience as “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.” And there was my photograph right beside the definition! Just kidding. I have been told that I’m an...
