by Nancy | Aug 23, 2017
You may think it’s all over once your divorce is final, but there are a few more things you should do to get on the right path for your next chapter. It’s kind of like moving into a new place. You have to arrange for your utilities to be transferred,...
by Nancy | Aug 9, 2017
I have mixed emotions about this topic. On the one hand, there are some really valid reasons why staying friends with your ex is a healthy, mature thing to do. On the other hand, it could be holding you back from moving on. Here’s a quick true-false quiz: True...
by Nancy | Aug 2, 2017
More often than not, couples speak different languages about money. Whether it’s due to gender, cultural differences, or paycheck inequality, divergent attitudes towards spending and saving can destroy a relationship. In fact, according to many experts,...
by Nancy | Jul 26, 2017
I have a quirk, an idiosyncrasy, an annoying personality trait. Call it what you will, but I’m a sucker for a good conversation. I channel my dad, who could talk with anybody about anything, and I try my best to live up to that standard. Before I share his...
by Nancy | Jul 19, 2017
This is a story about Ashley and her mom, Sally. This is also a story about a Millennial and a Baby Boomer. This is also a story about love. So here goes: Sally is a retired elementary school teacher who frequently helps out her daughter, Ashley, by babysitting for...
by Nancy | Jul 12, 2017
No, I’m not talking about “the silent treatment” that we’ve all used from time to time to make a point. “What’s wrong?” your partner asks, and you respond “Nothing,” which can be a truthful answer or, more likely,...
by Nancy | Jul 5, 2017
A dear friend recently lost her grandmother. The funeral was well-attended, as Grandma Ruth had lived a long life and endeared herself to many. Grandma Ruth and Grandpa Al had eight children, and four of the eight children were divorced, remarried, and had...
by Nancy | Jun 28, 2017
Do you maintain frequent eye contact with the speaker? Are you suspending your judgment of the person’s appearance? Are you encouraging the speaker by nodding and conveying your own understanding? Do you try to keep an eye on what else is going on in the room?...
by Nancy | Jun 21, 2017
An old friend once told me that he came home from work to find his house completely emptied, including the carpeting, light bulbs, switchplate covers and toilet paper! Was his house broken into? Nope. His wife decided to move out and end the relationship....
by Nancy | Jun 14, 2017
We all know them. The blamers. The ones who are the quickest to deny responsibility. Instead, they say things like, “the bank bounced my check,” or “I missed the deadline because my assistant’s kid was sick.” When I’m working with...
by Nancy | Jun 7, 2017
I imagine that each one of us knows of someone who isn’t speaking to a brother or sister. My dad and one of his brothers didn’t speak to each other for decades, and they never chose to reconcile. As a family Mediator, I hear stories about long-standing...
by Nancy | May 31, 2017
Telling your kids that you’re getting a divorce is one of the most significant conversations you’ll ever have, so it makes sense to do the best you can. Even if you haven’t been on the same page with your spouse for ages, it’s a necessity in...
