by Nancy | Mar 1, 2017
I hear this often: “I know he’s 23, but I still worry about him.” Or, “Geez! I’m 25 and my dad still wants to control me.” How do parents and their adult offspring figure this out? First, let me pose a couple of questions: (1) Who...
by Nancy | Feb 22, 2017
A couple of months ago, I wrote a blog called “Co-Existing with your Former In-Laws.” I soon realized that that’s only half of the picture, and have been thinking ever since about the other perspective. Several of my friends are now having to tiptoe...
by Nancy | Feb 15, 2017
You’ve separated, now you’re back together again. At first, it seems like this time things will be different. Then reality sets in, and both of you revert to all of your old patterns. You’re bickering about the same things. He calls you a nag....
by Nancy | Feb 8, 2017
When my closest friends announced they were getting a divorce, I wasn’t the slightest bit surprised. Socializing with them was often uncomfortable, and trying to ignore their constant bickering was getting tiresome. As is fairly typical for women,...
by Nancy | Jan 30, 2017
Several years ago, I attended a wedding. The bride’s parents had divorced when “Holly” was in elementary school. Her mother remarried shortly thereafter, and the stepfather, “Tim,” was instrumental in Holly’s life. So important...
by Nancy | Jan 23, 2017
You’re out walking your dog on a Saturday morning enjoying the exercise and the fresh air when, all of a sudden, he pulls on his leash and starts to growl. Why? Because somebody else’s dog has approached, and that dog is not on a leash. Fortunately,...
by Nancy | Jan 16, 2017
You and your mother-in-law had the fight to end all fights. Granted, it was a long time ago, but it was never resolved. There was no (pardon the overused cliche) closure. There wasn’t even an agreement to disagree. Just silence. When absolutely necessary, you...
by Nancy | Jan 9, 2017
“My expectations were reduced to zero when I was 21. Everything since then has been a bonus.” So said the brilliant Stephen Hawking in a magazine interview. Guess what? I’m going to disagree with a genius. Lowering your expectations, in my...
by Nancy | Jan 2, 2017
An extraordinary person once said, “Friends should bring you joy.” Oh wait! That was me! And that is the barometer I use when nurturing my own friendships. I’ve been researching this question, and asking men and women alike whether it’s...
by Nancy | Dec 26, 2016
At one point or another during practically every divorce mediation session, I remind the soon-to-be-exes that they will be a family forever. Only their marital status and their living situation will change. I offer up scenarios where they’ll be together as a...
by Nancy | Dec 19, 2016
I recently heard a story about two elderly sisters who had been estranged for more than 30 years. There was a reconciliation of sorts at the older sister’s deathbed, but after she passed away, the younger sibling was left with guilt. She had missed out on...
by Nancy | Dec 12, 2016
Ok, you heard it. The apology. Hard to tell whether it was absolutely sincere, but you’re willing to give the benefit of the doubt. Now what? I often hear people use the worn out cliche, “forgive and forget.” Contrary to popular opinion, those...
