Do You Finish Your Story Before It Ends? (Three Minute Read)

Do You Finish Your Story Before It Ends? (Three Minute Read)

I know people who step on the punchline when I’m telling a joke. Or get it right when I rhetorically say, “guess who I bumped into at Costco?”  Or interrupt me when I pause for dramatic effect.  Annoying, right?  How about when we do it to...
Don’t Tell Me to Calm Down! (Three Minute Read)

Don’t Tell Me to Calm Down! (Three Minute Read)

As I am sure you can imagine, tempers often flare during mediation and dealing with emotions is a large part of what I do.For example, last year I worked with a divorcing couple who had three teenagers. According to “Jessica,” her husband had a drinking problem....
If I Knew Then . . . (Three Minute Read)

If I Knew Then . . . (Three Minute Read)

“It’s easy to be wise after the event.” ~  Sir Arthur Conan Doyle. If I had a crystal ball, I certainly wouldn’t have gotten married for the first time at the age of 20, and I would have left the marriage sooner than I ultimately did.   The...
Can This Relationship Be Saved? (Three Minute Read)

Can This Relationship Be Saved? (Three Minute Read)

My mom used to subscribe to a magazine that had a monthly feature entitled “Can This Marriage Be Saved?”  I loved reading those articles because they’d showcase each party’s side and then the marriage counselor would weigh in with sage...
I’m So Disappointed! (Three Minute Read)

I’m So Disappointed! (Three Minute Read)

While I was at UCLA, I worked in a law office with a married woman who was about 10 years older than me. The day after every single holiday or gift-giving occasion, she would come to work bitterly disappointed because her husband never did what she wanted him to do. I...
Separate the People from the Problem (Three Minute Read)

Separate the People from the Problem (Three Minute Read)

Imagine you’re out walking your dog on a Saturday morning enjoying the exercise and the fresh air when, all of a sudden, he pulls on his leash and starts to growl. Why? Because somebody else’s dog has approached, and that dog is not on a leash. Fortunately, your...
Resilience (Three Minute Read)

Resilience (Three Minute Read)

Throughout my ongoing personal journey of grief and loss, I’ve discovered that there is a universal commonality. We are all resilient. It’s amazing, it’s comforting, and it’s also mind-boggling. How can we, in the depths of our despair, manage...
Wish I Hadn’t Said That (Three Minute Read)

Wish I Hadn’t Said That (Three Minute Read)

If you’ve ever been involved in a heated discussion and found yourself enraged by a single statement, you probably understand that your partner, sibling, colleague or parent knows exactly how to push your buttons, and you likely know exactly how to push theirs....
Does Gender Matter in Divorce?  (Three Minute Read)

Does Gender Matter in Divorce? (Three Minute Read)

This subject comes up from time to time, particularly when I’m having a private conversation with a male client.  I tend to wonder about the different ways men and women think about divorce, how they deal with it, and whether the court sometimes has an...
Two Strikes and You’re Out? (Three Minute Read)

Two Strikes and You’re Out? (Three Minute Read)

As much as I’d like to write about baseball today, it’s not happening.  Instead, I’m going to address the concept of second chances.  I wonder whether you’ve ever asked someone for a second chance, or if you’ve given one to somebody...