Giving Thanks and Looking Forward (2-1/2 Minute Read)

In this, my last post for 2018, I want to get personal. No attempts at wisdom here, and no suggestions to help avoid or resolve conflicts. Instead, I’m writing about what matters to me, and what motivates me to improve. In a single word — relationships....

Loneliness in Relationships (Three Minute Read)

I have a friend whose husband sits in his recliner chair from the time he gets home from work until the time he goes to bed. She serves him dinner, fetches his beer, and hands him the remote control as soon as he sits down. She calls the circumference around the...

Figure Your Trigger (Three Minute Read)

I know we’re all supposed to love the holidays, and I understand it’s a season of joy and giving, but sometimes, some things, and some people seem to piss me off more during this time than any other time in the year. Anyone with me? In this article, I am...

Blame vs. Repair (Three Minute Read)

I used to work for an attorney who I’ll call “Leonard the Lunatic.” I must confess, I learned a lot from him, not the least of which was to love the Oxford comma. But I digress. Leonard the Lunatic was very quick to blame anyone and everyone. And one...

Are You Lying to Yourself? (Three Minute Read)

That small order of french fries won’t hurt. Having a second glass of red wine means twice the antioxidants. I’ll apologize next time I see him. These are some of the many lies I tell myself. Harmless? What do you think? In my mediation practice, I help...

Grandparents and Divorce (Three Minute Read)

What happens to the relationship between you and your grandchildren when their parents are involved in a bitter divorce?  How can you stay in the lives of your grandchildren when your negative opinion of their mom is well-known?  And can you do this without going to...

Are You Willing to Fake it on Thanksgiving? (Three Minute Read)

It’s almost Thanksgiving and back by popular demand, is my perspective on how to get through the holiday with some of your less-than-favorite people, the relatives. You might think there are only two options: avoidance or confrontation.  But in true peacemaker...

Boundaries (Three Minute Read)

I have a difficult time setting boundaries. As a result, I feel under-appreciated at best, and downright taken for granted at worst. Why is this so hard for me? Is it because of my birth order (youngest of three)? Is it because I like to think I’m a genuinely...

Labels (Three Minute Read)

Some labels are important.  After all, I don’t want to grab a Merlot when I’m really looking for a Pinot Noir.  But other than the important ones (like those on wine bottles), I dislike labels.  I don’t like the scratchy ones on the inside of my...

THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT (Three Minute Read)

If you’ve watched one minute of television in the last month, you’ve been inundated with political commercials. This candidate is shady, this candidate wants to end social security, this candidate wants to raise property taxes. Blah, blah, blah. I tune it...

If T.V. Shows Can Reboot, So Can We! (Three Minute Read)

In case you haven’t noticed, old television shows are coming back in prime time, but with a new flair.  Will & Grace, Murphy Brown, Magnum P.I., and Miami Vice are on the list. It’s inspired me to think about the whole concept of a reboot. First,...