by Nancy | Oct 29, 2025
It seems to me that taking care of your committed relationship is like nurturing a garden. In the beginning, you decide what you’re going to grow. You till the soil and you plant the seeds. You pay close attention as the seedlings begin to sprout, giving them...
by Nancy | Oct 22, 2025
When’s the last time you told your manager, assistant, colleague, or CEO that they matter to you? And not just saying “thank you.” That’s too easy and too habitual. Nor am I referring to overall gratitude which, although most definitely a good thing, has become...
by Nancy | Oct 15, 2025
While concentrating on the business of getting through each day, taking good care of my divorce mediation clients and doing my best to take care of myself, I sometimes get lost in the weeds with no understanding of how I landed there. I know I’m not the only one...
by Nancy | Oct 8, 2025
In the 14+ years I’ve been a divorce mediator, I’ve become pretty good at reading my clients. Once in awhile, a “divorce bully” and spouse come in and I can tell almost immediately that this is an “or else” situation. “You’ll do this, or else we’re getting a...
by Nancy | Oct 1, 2025
Recently, two of my favorite people spent a weekend with me and inevitably our conversation landed on divorce mediation. They asked about my relationship observations, both from a success perspective as well as why some eventually fail. We all agreed that a healthy...
by Nancy | Sep 24, 2025
After 13+ years as a divorce and family mediator, I have worked with literally hundreds of families. I’ve conducted mediations with parents who’ve brought along their toddlers (not ideal), and I’ve also met privately with their teenagers (ideal). ...
by Nancy | Sep 17, 2025
Every so often, I reread “The Four Agreements” sometimes stopping after the first principle, which is to “be impeccable with your word.” To me that means integrity, and some of us may be due for personal check-up. So, let’s start with a brief quiz: Do your...
by Nancy | Sep 10, 2025
This topic was introduced to me by a colleague who I met years ago at a networking event. I admire her work ethic and follow-up skills, and each time we meet, she gives me another nugget of inspiration. Hence, the title of this article. I find myself struggling with...
by Nancy | Sep 3, 2025
Getting through the dog days of summer can be a challenge. While not generally lazy, I am finding myself putting off more things than I get done each day. So, my “to do” list keeps growing like the pile of clothes I need to take to the women’s...
by Nancy | Aug 27, 2025
During practically every divorce mediation, I remind my clients that, although they’re no longer a couple, they will always be a family. I offer up scenarios where they’ll likely be sitting next to or near each other, such as graduations, birthday parties,...
by Nancy | Aug 20, 2025
When you imagine an empty bucket and then fill it, what goes in? Water? Sand? Popcorn? Something intangible? At least once a week, a divorcing couple comes into my office carrying a bucket of resentment. One or the other has either cheated, spent too much money,...
by Nancy | Aug 13, 2025
Helen Mirren once said: “Before you argue with someone, ask yourself, is that person even mentally mature enough to grasp the concept of a different perspective? Because if not, there’s absolutely no point.” I wish I would have learned this lesson a...
