by Nancy | Jan 28, 2026
I wish I would have kept track of the number of divorce mediation clients who’ve accused each other of sabotaging the relationship, often masking their inner fear of rejection. As I start my 15th year (!!) as a divorce and family mediator, I’m able to...
by Nancy | Jan 21, 2026
In divorce mediation, the concept of value occurs frequently. Most often, it has to do with money, as in “my money pays the mortgage,” or “the money in my 401K was deducted from my paycheck.” I often have to patiently explain that Nevada is...
by Nancy | Jan 14, 2026
There’s a significant difference, don’t you think? I know a guy who complained about practically everything, to the point where being with him often became exhausting. In spite of denying that his intention was to blame, his complaints centered around...
by Nancy | Jan 7, 2026
Surrounding myself with like-minded, positive people delights me, and I genuinely rejoice in their good news. Whether it’s a new baby, a new puppy, a promotion, or a new dishwasher, the good news of others makes me happy.I learned a long time ago to choose optimism,...
by Nancy | Dec 31, 2025
The end of the year is a natural time for introspection, and the beginning of a new year is a natural time to set goals. (Notice I didn’t use the word “resolution.”) Hopefully, 2025 was a good year for you. I’m giving it mixed reviews.I had...
by Nancy | Dec 24, 2025
I have a confession to make. I do not like Hallmark movies. It’s not that I’m a snob with high standards. In fact, anyone who has known me for awhile will undoubtedly hear me sing the praises of all Will Ferrell movies. And it’s not that I have anything against...
by Nancy | Dec 17, 2025
Making the decision to end a relationship can be more challenging than actually ending it. This is true whether you’re thinking about leaving your spouse, quitting your job, or selling your house. And if you’re indecisive by nature, the choice can be brutal. After...
by Nancy | Dec 10, 2025
I believe that domineering people need to have the last word. And I have no problem allowing them to have it because I’m not usually domineering. Having the last word isn’t important to me. Why does it even matter? I decided to do some research and, not...
by Nancy | Dec 3, 2025
This is a story about how generations differ and evolve, especially when it comes to child-rearing. And this is also a story about love. Let me introduce you to Sally, a retired elementary school teacher who frequently helps out her daughter, Ashley, by babysitting...
by Nancy | Nov 26, 2025
I recently helped a divorced couple to modify their Parenting Plan. What I observed, practically from the very beginning, was that the mom had a passive-aggressive style of communication, and it led to the dad’s confusion rather than his understanding. Here are some...
by Nancy | Nov 19, 2025
Not surprisingly, I have heard many arguments during divorce mediation. I’ve also listened to many arguments between my parents. And I’ve participated in more than a few arguments in my own relationships. I can say for sure that people have unique ways...
by Nancy | Nov 12, 2025
Many couples who come to me for divorce mediation land in my office because they have opposite parenting styles. I’ve met with the fun mom and the strict dad, the fierce dad and the nurturing mom, as well as the taskmaster mom and the Disneyland dad. All of these...
